Here’s a post from my friend’s website that I’m sure will get some of you talking. I suspect some of you will agree, but certainly not everyone. The friend is author, professor, and speaker Hugo Schwyzer.
The title alone will grab you: “My life doesn’t just revolve around you”: a note of gratitude for a feminist mom
Have your attention?
Here’s an excerpt:
”I’ve been posting quite a bit about families and obligation lately.
My mother called on Saturday to tell me that she liked my “daring to disappoint” post from last Tuesday. She gave me her permission to post the following.
My parents divorced when I was six; my brother and I were raised by a single mother. (Our father visited regularly, and theirs was — thank God — a civil and even cordial separation.) It was not easy being a single mom to two very young sons. We might have lived in Carmel, but money was tight at times, and my mother had to cope with all of the anxieties and doubts that come in the aftermath of a divorce, separation, and the assumption of sole permanent custody.
But as we talked about on Saturday, my mother also gave a great gift to my brother and me: she always made it clear that she wasn’t sacrificing her life for us. From the time we were small, our mother always took time for herself. She had her poetry group, her work with the League of Women Voters, and other social and community activities in which we were not involved. Now mind you, she was a loving and devoted mom! My brother and I grew up knowing we were cherished and protected and cared for. But we also knew that our mother did not exist merely to meet our needs — she had a mind of her own, wants of her own, and she was going to make time for herself as well as for her sons.”
Read the rest at www.hugoschwyzer.net and tell me what you think.