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Here’s a post from my friend’s website that I’m sure will get some of you talking. I suspect some of you will agree, but certainly not everyone. The friend is author, professor, and speaker Hugo Schwyzer.
The title alone will grab you: “My life doesn’t just revolve around you”: a note of gratitude for a feminist mom
Have your attention?
Here’s an excerpt:
”I’ve been posting quite a bit about families and obligation lately.
My mother called on Saturday to tell me that she liked my “daring to disappoint” post from last Tuesday. She gave me her permission to post the following.
My parents divorced when I was six; my brother and I were raised by a single mother. (Our father visited regularly, and theirs was — thank God — a civil and even cordial separation.) It was not easy being a single mom to two very young sons. We might have lived in Carmel, but money was tight at times, and my mother had to cope with all of the anxieties and doubts that come in the aftermath of a divorce, separation, and the assumption of sole permanent custody.
But as we talked about on Saturday, my mother also gave a great gift to my brother and me: she always made it clear that she wasn’t sacrificing her life for us. From the time we were small, our mother always took time for herself. She had her poetry group, her work with the League of Women Voters, and other social and community activities in which we were not involved. Now mind you, she was a loving and devoted mom! My brother and I grew up knowing we were cherished and protected and cared for. But we also knew that our mother did not exist merely to meet our needs — she had a mind of her own, wants of her own, and she was going to make time for herself as well as for her sons.”
Read the rest at www.hugoschwyzer.net and tell me what you think.
I think the article shows a young boy needs the honest truth. owing “society” one future smart bright and strong minded young man the mother as leader of this family making clear to save room for uncertainties, how does a boy keep busy is what mom doesnt know and that would be the greatest imagination in the world: ) the famous club house from blankets and xtra pillows, the zip line from her sowing thread for army men she didnt miss until a month later when tha color black got low?hmmm.jumping on her bed when she was nt home ” hey mom what time will you be home?”.lol. Dad might give you a half a hug from the side once or twice due to some secret reason thier couldnt be too much affection which twenty years later the term man law could sum some of that up Mom could give a son insight into what a women would need from her boy one day, and the things she does early in life are inbedded in her son because she owes you her future daughter (in law).
You own your children everything. It’s you job to teach your children how to be responsible citizens, and contribute positive to society. Most of all you own them unconditional love.